14th (self help) Day of Xmas – ‘Coal to Diamonds’ – You Need This

Beth Ditto‘s book “Coal To Diamonds” is currently available in hardcover and Kindle versions at Amazon.com or at your favorite bookseller.  I have hyperlinked the locations for your convenience.  You should buy this, read this and let it inspire you.

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Yr Mangled Heart
From an early age, Ditto’s family provided some, let’s say, lax supervision. As she explains, “an old babysitter had taught me to inhale [cigarettes] at the tender age of six . . . I fed my habit by slipping Winstons from Aunt Jannie’s pack during our talk-and-television marathons.”

The Truth
Ditto was under a mistaken impression growing up about whom her actual father was. “My mother told me Homer Ditto was not my father. Nope. Mom had had a fling with some other guy who was my dad. Some dude who didn’t stick around too long who Mom was happy to get rid of. She chose Homer, and Homer chose me, so he lent me his name even though I didn’t have his blood.”

Confessor
Recreational vices and mistaken identity paled in comparison to some of the darker aspects of Ditto’s childhood. “I would say Uncle Lee Roy was a creep. He oozed an inappropriate sexuality . . . Every time we were alone, his hands were everywhere. Down my pants, down my shirt. It was a normal experience — Uncle Lee Roy had been coming at me that way ever since I could remember, beginning when I was about four years old.”

Perfect World
Desperate to get out of Arkansas and enamored with the burgeoning Riot Grrrl movement, Ditto and some friends decide to move to Olympia, Washington and change their lives forever, even in simple ways. “Olympia was a town crawling with music. I was new to the whole punk scene,” she excitedly recalls. “The culture shock continued; Olympia had bagels! We didn’t have bagels in Arkansas. You could order vegetarian food all over town! It was so crazy to me — a place with so many vegetarians, the restaurants made special dishes for them? Being in Olympia was like going off to college. It’s where I got my education.”

Listen Up
Though her weight gives her no small amount of youthful angst, Ditto credits her physicality with birthing her brash performing style. “My size has helped make me an amazing performer too. The cliché of the Funny Fat Friend: I absolutely was that character — I am that character . . . It’s a complicated bag of tools I acquired, and I’ve put them all to work onstage. “

Ain’t It the Truth
Ditto and her band are far more popular in the U.K. than they are in her homeland. She has some very specific ideas about why that is. “Let’s get totally real about it and say that it’s not just taste that keeps Gossip ignored by the U.S. media. It’s sexism, the way women who are outspoken about all the real bullshit females deal with in this world either get ignored or made into jokes.”

Heavy Cross
Ditto makes plain that she’s no ideological dilettante when it comes to feminism. “Girls are taught to sing high and pretty, like Antony, not low and from the guts like Nina Simone. But we’re slowly trying to change that. There are so many things we’re not told growing up, and it’s our true feminist responsibility to take the truth to the people who need to hear it.”

Beth Ditto Bares All In Her Memoir ‘Coal to Diamonds’ | SPIN | Newswire.

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Beth Ditto – Style Icon

Born: February 19, 1981 (age 30) Searcy, Arkansas, US

Mary Beth Patterson, known by her stage name Beth Ditto (born February 19, 1981, in Searcy, Arkansas), is an American singer-songwriter, most famous for her work with the indie rock band Gossip.

At 13, she moved out of her mother’s house and went to live with her aunt. A resident of Portland, Oregon, she is a close friend of Scissor Sisters lead singer Ana Matronic, and considers her favorite song to be “Oh Bondage, Up Yours” by X-Ray Spex. She courted mild controversy in 2006 when, during an interview for NME magazine, she claimed to have eaten squirrels as a child, saying that “people in Arkansas just do – they’d think you were a freak if you ate squid there!”

Ditto is known for her noticeable stage dances and her unique and revealing image. She also formerly contributed an advice column on body image to The Guardian newspaper.

In February 2009, she was featured in London as the cover model for the premiere of Love magazine with prominent public advertising. On July 9, 2009, Beth’s fashion collection for the UK retailer Evans was released for sale, both online, and in selected stores across the UK.

Ditto, who is a lesbian, is well known for her outspoken support of both LGBT and feminist causes.

Her most recent modeling work consisted of opening the Jean Paul Gaultier spring 2011 fashion show during Paris Fashion Week on October 2, 2010.

Take No Prisoners.

“I don’t want the world, I only want what I deserve!”. – Beth Ditto; The Gossip; “Yr Mangled Heart”

Scream it from the rooftops, from your car, or softly whisper it at the copy machine. Feel it. Reclaim it. It’s pumping through your body, bursting to get out.

It’s Friday, people. Let’s fcuk siht up!

Keep it going with Heavy Cross:

Divine Inspiration.

I think every outrageous performer today owes a little something to Harris Glenn Milstead, the man behind the eyebrows that was Divine.

Today would have been his 66th birthday.

I remember when he died.  A friend of mine told me on our way to school, we talked about him and the movies we had seen and of course the dog crap scene.

So pour a little out for Divine this weekend, in that dirty drag bar in heaven, or wherever he is.  Until then:

In other news, I am actively cultivating R’s obsession with The Gossip and Beth Ditto one youtube video at a time:

He actually called this one “so cute.”  I’m gonna cram the shuffle he uses on his runs full of The Gossip and Beth Ditto as a reward.