Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

I need a new profile pic, I would set myself a goal of getting a new one today, but that seems like too much pressure for a Sunday.  Other stuff that falls under “News of Me” would be that I got up every day this week at 6:30 am and went to the gym.  I started slowly with only cardio and light weights, but next week I will be full speed.  That job at #SuitSupply really took everything from me.  For the first six months of this year, I went to the gym probably four times.  I was just always tired.  My life balance is back and I can already feel an improvement in my mental state.  The new gym is only about two miles from home, locally owned and exactly the sort of motivation I needed.


I rarely comment on posts anymore and I never read on other posts. I mostly leave helpful tips for other bloggers to get more traffic. Every once in a while, I tweet something with a hashtag that gets the internet trolls to lick the Dorito dust off their fingertips and go on the attack. I don’t mind that much, they don’t want to have a dialogue, they just call me a retarded fag communist (I’ve been called worse in Junior High). I will remark that I understand they only want to name call and not have a conversation and they just leave me alone. Or a quick block on them ends it if they continue to name call. No big deal. On Facebook, if there is a post I disagree with whole-heartedly, I usually do not even comment, I just unfriend. Mad Cobra via Robyn has given me that philosophy when it comes to Facebook: “I press trigger, I don’t press people button.” I don’t start something, I end something. Okay? Facebook isn’t real, those people may coincidentally also be real friends, but just because you knew them in high school, you do not owe them anything. My new problem is the comment commenters. They are usually friends of your Facebook friends (strangers to you) that don’t like your comment, so they go on attack. These people also do not care to have a dialogue. Since it so rarely happens (I have trimmed up my Facebook friends list to like-minded and/or respectful people), I am always caught a bit off guard that a stranger is finding it necessary to attack me on someone else’s page. I have a rule: If the mutual friend does not step in to mediate, I delete all my comments, unfriend the mutual friend, and inform them my actions are in result of their inability to moderate their page satisfactorily. In all fairness, it is usually people that I should have unfriended or never friended, our lives and views on a lot of things are very different. #HobbyLobby #2ndAmendment #NRA #Hilary2016

This week on Waldina, I celebrated the birthdays of Pablo Neruda, Louis B. Mayer, Milton Berle, Van Cliburn, Brett Somers, Fred Gwynne, Camille Pissarro, David Hockney, Anjelica Huston, Marc Chagall, Gustav Mahler, Shelley Duvall and George Cukor.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 1,186
Total Subscribers: 317
Total Visits: 117,516
Total Visits This Week: 613
Most Popular Post This Week: Happy Birthday Camille Pissarro

This week on Wasp & Pear, I posted Kai and Heather’s book review vlog of “The Fantastic Flying Books of Mr. Morris Lessmore.” A librarian (who just so happens to also be the non-relative I have known the longest) and her daughters read and review books. It is great for parents with kids, but also just great to see kids that are excited about reading. You should follow/subscribe to all of them over at, links to their various internet places can be found there.

I went on to post photos of abandoned places; vintage Seattle, New York City and Hollywood; and the like.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 2,567
Posts This Week: 69
Total Followers: 182
Most Popular Post This Week: Ross Shire Hotel

Over on my little corner of Twitter @TheRealSPA, I tweeted:

Anyone wanting to turn away children based of what side of the line on a map they were born must IMMEDIATELY stop self-identifying as Xtian.


O-P-U-L-E-N-C-E: You Own Everything!


Why such involved coffee orders?

The Stats:

Total Tweets: 299 (auto-deleted every 31 days to preserve freshness)
Total Followers: 248
Total Following: 185

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Onward and Upward – My Last Day

A Time to Dance - Hearts and Laserbeams

Today was my last day at Suit Supply.  T.G.I.M.F.F.  You know they won’t let their employees us the #suitsupply hashtag on social media platforms?  They want to “control the image” of the company.  That’s fine.  Their ex-employees can do what they want.

Quitting is the best thing you can do for yourself sometimes.  If you feel that there is no way the changes you want will be possible, you need to find something else.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to have the option of being better.  You do not have the power to change the structure and tone of a company, if it does not agree with you, you need to move on.  You should never love a company because it does not possess the ability to love you back.

I quit primarily because my life was exceptionally out of balance.  I wasn’t able to go to the gym regularly (I have only been six or so times in the last six months) and my days off were spent recuperating from the work week.  The Secondary reasons why I quit are my frustrations of working with an incompetent, dismissive and dysfunctional corporate structure.  Most of the employees higher than the store level are exceptionally rude and just not good at their jobs.  When you are told by the COO that if you don’t get what you need from the buyers, it is your responsibility to continually bother them until they do their jobs, there is a problem with responsibility.  I don’t think pestering someone to do their job is an acceptable form of business.  That, and while I was managing the employees and store and responsible for everything that happened in the store for months and months, they never made it official.  I was getting paid a sales associate wage, but too busy to make commission.  My only bonus was the 10-12 hours of weekly overtime I was being paid.

I would like to share a couple articles that I have recently read:

You have probably heard before that most people do not quit their jobs, they quit their boss.  It makes sense.  That is absolutely 100% the reason I left Gucci.  It’s the reason everyone leaves that store.  It is one of the main reasons I am leaving Suit Supply (not my boss specifically, but the corporate structure and attitude of how they treat people in the stores).  Here is some help I wish the right people would read, I know they won’t, but I wish they would:
12 Personality Traits Of A Great Boss


And for my coworkers and anyone else wanting to make a change, I found the 10 Free Apps You Need For Effective Job Hunting.  Download them now.  Make that technology work for you.  Now that you have all the apps at your fingertips, you need to market yourself.  Read How To Supercharge Your LinkedIn Profile In 15 Minutes and follow the instructions.  Read What Recruiters Pay Attention To For Your LinkedIn And Online Profile and see what tweaks you can make to your profile to be noticed.  You don’t have to believe me that it is time to quit, read 9 Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job and decide for yourself.




Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

Dude, I swear, I don't know those people.
“Dude, I swear, I never said that and I don’t know those people.” – Jesus


Some things I have been thinking about this week:

1. Your Facebook “friends” are not really your friends. Facebook is not a real thing. You may know some of them in real life and are actually friends with them, but just because you agreed to connect with them on the internet does not mean you owe anybody anything.

2. Why aren’t parents vaccinating their kids? Are these the same crazy religious weirdoes that also don’t give their kids medicine because it’s “God’s will”?  Those parents end up going to jail for child abuse when their kids die.

3. How many people have to die before people stop responding to mass shootings with candle light vigils and posters and ribbons? None of those things are going to stop a bullet. How many more people have to die before people get angry and start holding elected officials accountable? Until we start electing people that will have the courage to address safer gun regulations and mental illness, innocent people will be murdered. Those innocent people may be your friends, family or you. How fucking stupid does lighting a candle seem now?



This week on Waldina, I celebrated the birthdays of Suzi Quatro, colleen Dewhurst, Rosalind Russell, Carmen Dell’Orefice, Hedda Hopper, and the 125th anniversary of the Great Seattle Fire.

The Stats:

Views This Week:  449
All Time Views:  115,087
Total Subscribers:  309
Most Popular Post This Week:    The Great Seattle Fire


This week on Wasp & Pear on Tumblr, I posted photographs of creepy vintage images that will haunt your dreams, Lucy and Ethel, vintage mug shots, classic Hollywood, abandoned places, set design still of the classic sitcom Bewitched, Vintage Seattle and iconic stills from North By Northwest.

The Stats:

Posts This Week:  87
All Time Posts:  2,385
Total Subscribers:  176
Most Popular Post:  Meet Paisley Currah


This week I tweeted from @TheRealSPA “Fucking Enough”.

Total Tweets (last 31 days the rest are auto-purged):  323
Total Following:  221
Total Followers:  167

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Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

first record

I don’t remember exactly which first record I owned, but the first three were:

Are you watching the British Pathe videos on YouTube? I am overwhelmed with the idea of 85,000 videos at my fingertips. I just randomly choose a few every once in a while. Here is todays:

This week on Waldina, I celebrated a collection of creepy photographs of Easer Bunnies, I listed 18 Secrets of Happy People, and I celebrated the birthday of Karen Von Blixen-Finecke, Richard Avedon and Ellen Barken.

The Stats:

Total Views: 110,793
Views This Week: 975
Total Posts: 1,083
Total Subscribers: 281
Most Popular Post This Week: Rudolph Valentino – Style Icon


This week on Wasp & Pear on Tumblr, I posted posted photographs of abandoned places, classic Hollywood, and vintage Seattle and New York. I cross-posted the art from the blog I manager for Ricardo Romero Cortez Duque.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 2,088
Post This week: 39
Total Followers: 165
Most Popular Post This Week: Puget Sound Lumber Company Mill Fire, May 9, 1930

This week on @TheRealSPA on Twitter, I set up a rule that will delete all tweets older than 30 days, to keep them fresh. I don’t see any need to have a record of every moronic 140 character or less I have ever posted. I highly suggest the same. I used @Tweet_Delete.  I also tweeted this photo:



The Stats:

Following: 315
Followers: 121

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18 Timeless Secrets of Happy People

Remember, it’s Friday.  You have something to be happy about.  Fix your focus.  Do something that will make someone else happy, someone you don’t know.  Smile.  Wait that extra second to hold open a door for someone.  Let someone merge ahead of you.  It is all in your power.  Use it.  If nothing else, watch and share the video at the end of the list.

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It’s common to hear people say that fame only brings unhappiness. Not true! As these wise words from modern and historical celebrities (and a group of happiness scientists) show, they’ve figured out the secrets of happy people and a happy life. Let’s hear it in their own words, shall we?

1. Happiness is who you are

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition”

- Martha Washington

Genuinely happy people have an almost magical ability to stay in good spirits even when there isn’t a great deal to be cheerful about. When happiness is a core aspect of your personality, nothing can force you to be unhappy.

2. Happiness is a choice you make

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be.”

- Groucho Marx

The next time you find yourself in a difficult situation, ask yourself this: would you rather have a difficult and unhappy time, or stay happy through the tough times? Your choice.

3. Happiness comes from self-consistency

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

- Mahatma Gandhi

As any psychologist will tell you, it’s human nature to want your thoughts, words and deeds to be consistent—but you’ll often find yourself trying to fit the mould of what you think other people want instead of being fully and consistently yourself. That leads to conflict in your mind, which leads to a less happy life.

4. Happiness is your responsibility

“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”

- Alice Walker

There’s nothing more depressing than waiting for the happiness delivery guy. Why? Because he doesn’t exist. Decide to deliver your own happiness, and you can free yourself from a very long wait.

5. Happiness is best served in moderation

“We cannot be happy if we expect to live all the time at the highest peak of intensity. Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.”

- Thomas Merton

Guess what? Spending all your time wishing you were happier will only make you more depressed. Aim for a comfortable day-to-day background level of happiness, rather than a huge blast of ecstatic joy that leaves you feeling wiped out.

6. Happiness is not in your memories

“The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”

- Andre Maurois

Reminiscing about good memories can leave you feeling happy for a while, it’s true, but the source of happiness is now. Dwelling on past happiness doesn’t change today, so stay in the present to make this your happy day. And if you find yourself dwelling on unhappy memories instead, let them go—all they do is keep you from achieving happiness today.

7. Happiness is not in your ambitions

“Future: That period of time in which our affairs prosper, our friends are true and our happiness is assured.”

- Ambrose Bierce

The author of The Devil’s Dictionary, Ambrose Bierce knew exactly how to be happy: simply avoid pinning your hopes on the unpredictable future. (He also knew a lot about sarcasm.) Hopes and ambitions for the future are nice, but being happy in the moment is better.

8. Happiness is contagious

“Whoever is happy will make others happy too.”

- Anne Frank

It’s a fact: smiling at somebody tends to make them feel happier. Laughing has an even stronger effect. So wherever you go, share your happiness with the people you meet, and surround yourself with happy people if you can.

9. Happiness is destroyed by envy

“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

- Woody Allen

Nobody who spends their life wishing they had more than they’ve got is ever going to achieve lasting happiness. But if you dial down your sense of envy and entitlement, you’ll be happy more often than not.

10. Happiness can’t be bought

“Money won’t make you happy… but everyone wants to find out for themselves.”

- Zig Ziglar

As a cliche, “you can’t buy happiness” is right up there with classics like “no use crying over spilt milk” or “crime doesn’t pay”, but the reason those cliches are so popular is that they’ve got a big hunk of truth in them, so don’t expect to get happier by spending more money!

11. Happiness can’t be compared

“The man with a toothache thinks everyone happy whose teeth are sound.”

- George Bernard Shaw

Before you make yourself unhappy by fretting that everybody else is happier than you, realise that they’ve all got problems; that’s… well, that’s life, folks. Instead of comparing your happiness to somebody else’s, try comparing it to your saddest moments. Suddenly, things don’t seem so bad after all.

12. Happiness is not on Facebook

“The more they used Facebook… the more their life satisfaction levels declined over time.”

- Ethan Kross et al., in a research paper published by PLOS One

Seriously, did you think all those party photos and excitable status updates meant that everyone’s having a ball? Nope, it just means they post on Facebook when they’re happy because they want to share that happiness (and maybe brag about it just a tiny bit). See happiness secret #11!

13. Happiness is making every day matter

“As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.”

- Leonardo da Vinci

Inaction rarely makes people happy. We need to feel that our existence has meaning and purpose in order to be happy, so spend each day doing the things that are most important to you.

14. Happiness means knowing what you love

“It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.”

- Lucille Ball

Let’s face it—if you don’t know what makes you happy it’s about time you started to figure it out. What makes you smile? What leaves you feeling great? Keep on with those things and your happiness will always have fuel.

15. Happiness is a gift. Accept it.

“I must learn to be content with being happier than I deserve.”

- Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

Are you cheating yourself out of happiness because you don’t feel you’ve earned it? Breaking news: you don’t have to earn happiness. It’s a gift—from your friends, from strangers, from the universe, from yourself. Give it and accept it freely so there’s always plenty in circulation.

16. Happiness is one side of life’s coin

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”

- Carl Jung

Nobody can be happy all of the time. If you were, you wouldn’t be able to recognise your happiness because you’d have nothing to compare it to!

17. Happiness is loving (and being loved in return)

“If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”

- Socrates

For most of us, a great deal of life’s happiness comes from being around the people we love, and knowing that they love us right back.

18. Happiness comes when you stop looking for it

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

- Albert Camus

The quest for happiness is easily confused with the desire for things that we believe might make us happy. On closer inspection, though, some of the happiest people in the world are those who’ve stopped hunting for a magical happiness guarantee, and are simply happy to exist.



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Rear View Mirror – My Week in Review


“I say this with respect, more often than not, the government does a very — a much better job of sending people to war than they do bringing them home” — Starbucks Chair Howard Schultz, on why he is giving $30 million to help troops acclimate once back home.

Are any of you actually surprised there are still senseless mass shootings happening, are any of you actually still shocked and heartbroken? What have you done with that? Have you emailed your elected officials and told them that if they do not support firearm reform, you will vote for someone that does? Have you actually supported the troops by donating to their rehabilitation services? Fuck those yellow ribbons, they don’t do shit and neither are you if you are not using your voice to make change.

Did you know that 33 people are murdered with guns every day in America?  Join me in demanding action from Congress to reduce gun violence in America:

After every major earthquake, people post the need for having a survival kit on Facebook. While I agree with the need in a general sense, I also do not agree with the practicality of it in a lot of scenarios. Basically, you have to be at home when the earthquake hits and your home has to be intact after the earthquake to make your survival kit useful. I mean, sure, I guess, go ahead and stockpile a bunch of water. Just don’t be surprised if you are not at home when the earthquake happens or your house collapses on all the water you saved up.

Pinterest is still a thing?  Really?  Who has that much time?

Oscar Wilde was arrested for indecent acts on this date in 1895.  He had been having an affair with the son of John Douglas, the Marquess of Queensberry.  The Marquess had a warrant sworn out for Wilde’s arrest.  Wilde’s friends implored him to escape to France, but Wilde said, “The train has gone. It’s too late.”  He was arrested at the Cadogan Hotel, and, after a lengthy trial, was sentenced to two years’ hard labor.  During his imprisonment, he wrote a long letter to his former lover, Alfred Douglas, which was later published as De Profundis (1895).  In it, he wrote: “When one has weighed the sun in the balance, and measured the steps of the moon, and mapped out the seven heavens, there still remains oneself.  Who can calculate the orbit of his own soul?”

Upon his release — bankrupt and in ill health — he moved to Paris, where he died in poverty three years later.

This week on Waldina, I celebrated the birthdays of Bette Davis, Anthony Perkins, Doris Day, Ali MacGraw and Barney Frank. I also added The African Queen to the Required Viewing film series.

The Stats:

Total Views: 108,856
Views This Week: 989
Total Subscribers: 273
Most Popular Post This Week: Doris Duke – Style Icon

This week on Wasp & Pear on Tumblr, I posted photos of vintage movie posters, obsessed over the TV show Columbo and the Polaroid Land Camera SX-70, remembered Kurt Cobain, retro photographs of Seattle, New York, and Hollywood. I also celebrated the wedding anniversary of the Fitzgeralds. I brilliant photos of the backlash from corporations trying to commercialize Capitol Hill. I posted a profile of the house that Antti Lovag built for Pierre Cardan in Cannes, France. I posted a few pieces of art by Jean-Michel Basquait.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 2,008
Posts This Week: 29
Subscribers: 162
Most Popular Post: New York City Hall Station

This week on my little corner of Twitter @TheRealSPA, I unfollowed some of the people/places/things that were not following me back. Mostly, it was celebrities and other entities that use Twitter to market themselves. I like following news sources and interesting people. But if I start to feel like my feed is a list of opt-in marketing campaigns, I unfollow. I also routinely follow and unfollow elected officials.

The Stats:

Total Tweets: 1,282
Following: 286
Followers: 111

Today is the birthday of the Shoshone woman Sacajawea, born in Idaho (sometime around 1789). She was kidnapped at age 10 by the Hidatsa tribe, sold into slavery, and bought by a French-Canadian trapper who made her one of his two wives. When Lewis and Clark hired the trapper to guide them to the Pacific, Sacajawea — a teenager with her two-month-old baby on her back — was part of the package. She was the only woman to accompany the permanent party to the Pacific Ocean and back.

Officially she acted as interpreter, since she could speak half a dozen Indian languages. But she also knew which plants were edible, and she saved the explorers’ records when their boat overturned. In his notes, William Clark pointed out that tribes were inclined to believe that their party was friendly when they saw Sacajawea because a war party would never travel with a woman, especially one with a baby.

When the trip was over, Sacajawea received nothing. Her trapper husband got $500.33 and 320 acres of land. She died on December 22, 1812, of a “putrid fever,” according to Clark’s records. She was 23. Eight months later, Clark legally adopted her two children — the boy who had been a baby on the expedition, Jean Baptiste, and an infant daughter, Lisette.

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Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

This week’s photographs are of the paintings that Rick has been working on most recently.  I archive them over on his own Tumblr blog: and have listed a few on ETSY for sale.  Please take a look and like/tweet/blog/whatever interests you.

Turns out that while I was on hold at the bank this week, I had enough time to delete every single Facebook post I have ever made, including the one containing my profile pic (which is also automatically loaded to be my twitter profile pic), so while the bank situation is resolved, I need a new profile pic. I am working on it.

This week on Waldina, I celebrated the birthdays of Joan Crawford, Marcel Marceau, Fred Rogers, Carrie Donavan, Anna Maria Piaggi, Rudolf Nureyev and celebrated the closure of Alcatraz.

The Stats:

All Time Visits: 106,713
Visits This Week: 1,057
Most Popular Post This Week: Doris Duke – Style Icon
Total Subscribers: 269
Total Posts: 1,055

This week on Wasp & Pear on Tumblr, I posted vintage Style Icons, street art, vintage photographs of Seattle, Hollywood, and New York City, photos of classic book covers, the art of Keith Haring and vintage Interlochen photographs.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 1,928
Posts This Week: 60
Total Subscribers: 162
New Subscribers: 1
Most Popular Post This Week: West Side Story: Original Broadway Cast Album – Album Cover Location

This week on @TheRealSPA on Twitter, I tweeted a whole conversation with a girl from the old neighborhood: @hanniespice. I also had a nice little conversation with @car2goSeattle about wiper fluid. All you have to do is tweet them that a car is out, including the plate number, and they will handle it.

The Stats:

Total Tweets: 1,150
Following: 305

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Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

This week, I officially joined a new gym and even worked out there. It is one floor below the store and open until 11:00 pm, so there will be no excuses as to why I cannot go to the gym after work. I also downloaded a new workout routine app, so I will be mixing up my whole gym life. I was planning on going to the old gym today, just to see if they know I dumped them, but I think I will take Dino and Paco on the longest walk of their lives.

If you posted your pleasure in Justin Bieber’s troubles, I probably blocked you this week. Not because I am a fan of his, but because I am not a fan of vicious schadenfreude.

This week, I made my first gif:

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This week on Waldina, I celebrated the birthdays of Paul Newman, Edith Warton, Tippi Hendren, George Burns, Porfirio Rubirosa, David Lynch, and me.

The Stats:

Views This Week:  336
All Time Views: 100,923
Total Posts: 992
Total Subscribers: 243
Top Post This Week: SPA v44.0 is Live

This week on Wasp & Pear, I posted photos of vintage Hollywood and pages from the Sears Big Book Catalog circa 1969. I celebrated the birthdays of Virginia Woolf, Federico Fellini and Somerset Maugham. I posted a photo of @OhMissSally ’s coffee cup and various Sochi Winter Olympics Boycott posters. I made a new twitter icon, and thanked everyone for all the birthday wishes.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 260 (due to 220 re-blogs of the week’s most popular post)
Total Subscribers: 150
New Subscribers This Week: 2
Most Popular Post: West Side Story: Original Broadway Cast Album – Album Cover Location

While all that was going down, over at @TheRealSpa, I tweeted a bunch of junk I found while stumbling around the internets.

The Stats:

Total Tweets: 569
Following: 268
Followers: 69

Not a lot happened over at the @TheRealSPA portion of Instagram this week, I took a photo of a huge group of creepy dolls, a screenshot of my personalized Google search page for my birthday, and a group photo of most of the people I work with.

The Stats:

Total Posts: 560
Total Followers: 128
Following: 123

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Words To Live By – Ms. Taylor

Words from a woman who LIVED/LOVED/LAUGHED the hell out of life. You should do it too, in your own way.

“The problem with people who have no vices is that generally you can be pretty sure they’re going to have some pretty annoying virtues.” – Elizabeth Taylor

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Traditionally, I do not make resolutions.  If I see a change that needs making, I just make it, I do not wait for a calendar date to start.  However, last year, I did make a very small change and started it on the first of January:  I took the stairs whenever possible.  In my daily commute, I am given a choice of stairs or escalator and I chose the stairs whenever possible.  If I was only presented with an escalator, then I walked up them instead of stood on them.  That is it.  Simple.

It turns out that one of the keys to a successful change in your life is to start small because a tiny habit is easier to stick to.  Another trick to secure a successful change in your life is to piggyback a new habit on an existing habit.  If you already go to the gym, adding five more minutes of cardio is very simple.  Lastly, as with everything, practice makes perfect.  Keep at your new habit, keep doing it, and before you know it, you will realize that you are doing it without even having to think about it.

Some of the suggested New Year’s Resolutions I have collected around the internets:

Drink More Water – start with a dead simple resolution — to drink more water. Assuming you’re not already in the habit of drinking plenty of water, that is. This resolution is so simple that if you can’t keep it, you probably shouldn’t be making resolutions at all. It also happens to come with a lot of health benefits. Dehydration is bad for your skin, it’s bad for your kidneys and it’s even bad for your digestive regularity. So buy a reusable water bottle, or keep a mug by your desk at work and make frequent trips to the cooler.

Eliminate Your Limiting Beliefs – Every one of us develops beliefs over the course of our lives that are inherently limiting.  When we’re young, most of us think that nearly anything is possible. The things we can do, the things we can achieve are all within reach. As we grow older, we often find ourselves in positions where a lot of the things we hoped for didn’t turn out the way we wanted them to. In an effort to save face with our subconscious mind, we make up a bunch of lies about why we don’t have the things that we want to have.

Become More Organized – Start small, and start on areas that you know will make a difference. Resolve to organize just one aspect of your life — whether it’s your email inbox, your finances, or even your social life. Once you start to see the impact it has, and once you begin to understand how manageable this process can be, you’ll find it easier to tackle some of the bigger organizational hurdles you have.

Disconnect At Least Once A Week – Speaking of limiting beliefs, one of the most common ones a lot of us are guilty of is that we need to go on vacation to disconnect from the technology and ties we have in our lives. This is a good one to start challenging as soon as the New Year rolls around. Take a day, or at the very least a few concerted hours every week to truly disconnect. No email. No internet. No television. No texts. Give yourself the space to take a break. It will feel amazing, and if it becomes a long-term habit, you’ll wonder how you even managed to live your life without this practice in the first place.

Take Every Small Opportunity To Exercise – Here’s another common suggestion that normally comes off as a load of half-hearted superficial advice. We’re here to tell you that it really, really isn’t. Walking at a moderate pace for 45 minutes will burn an extra 200 calories for most of us men that weigh enough to be concerned with our weight in the first place. Two-hundred calories might not seem like a huge deal, but consider this: If you burn an extra 200 calories per day and you change no other habits in your life, that will add up to 20 lbs of weight loss over the course of a year. This does assume that you’re at an equilibrium right now where you are neither gaining or losing any weight. Nevertheless, if you needed evidence that small changes can have a huge impact over the course of a year, there you go.

Give More Compliments – Paying someone a compliment is in itself a great action, but as a habit it’s even better. Learning to pay compliments means learning to pay closer attention to people in your life and the small changes that they make. Most of us spend a great deal of time and consideration on who we are and how we look, and getting recognized for it can be a great feeling. Besides the fact that you’ll feel better for paying more compliments, you’ll find that people start to warm up to you a lot more when you take the time to recognize them for who they are and the things they do.

Quit – If you hate your job, quit your job. Repeat after me: THE MONEY IS NOT WORTH IT.  Make job hunting your after-work activity.  Apply for everything you even think you may like.  Do not limit yourself.

Help strangers –  “Pay it forward,” do good things for the world — and don’t post a Facebook status about it.

And here is a list of what to leave in 2013 (I used to work with a guy that would need a personality transplant if he took this advice):

Stop posting negative shit about celebrities on social media, stop buying gossip magazines, stop watching reality TV. Moreover, just stop thinking about celebrities altogether. I am guilty of schadenfreude as much as anyone, but Miley Cyrus does not care what you think about her, so stop thinking about her.  I write daily about people whose lives I find inspiring.  Find people that inspire you and make them your own personal celebrities.

Stop caring about how many people “like” your Instagram photos, your tweets, your status updates, or any of that. If you like the content enough to post it, what else matters?  Social media anxiety is a waste of time.  Plus, trying to cater to what you think will garner a response from the hoi polloi makes you a Kardashian.

You don’t have ADD, you’re just rude.  Turn off your smartphone at dinner.  Don’t check your various feeds when you’re with friends.  Pay attention to the people physically in front of you.

Stop Liking Things Ironically – When you try to be ironic — you end up making bad things a million times worse. Therefore, all intentional irony should be abolished until everyone’s clear on what’s good and what’s bad. It’ll probably take about five years.

Quit The Namaste Gesture – When directed at, let’s say, the dry cleaner, this abridged prayer and bow combo comes off as highly insincere. As with everything, if you can imagine Adam Levine doing it, you should avoid it.

No More Honoring Yourself, Practicing Mindfulness, and Manifesting What the Universe Wants for You – Masking your selfishness with fancy words does not make it any less selfish.

Quash The Falsetto Flourish – Saying something like, “Imma get my drink on” with the “drink on” part sung in falsetto is a stylistic choice that cannot carry over into the new year. It might not seem like much now, but after a while, when things start to seem somehow better, we’ll know it’s because the Falsetto Flourish is gone.

Never Say “At the End of the Day, It Is What It Is.” – Across this great land, roughly 500,000 times a day, one person says this to another person, who nods in agreement, neither of them realizing that they’ve just participated in the emptiest experience two people can have. I think we all have our own corporate double-speak phrases that we find annoying, just start responding to the person that said it with “you just said nothing.”

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