Onward and Upward – My Last Day

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Today was my last day at Suit Supply.  T.G.I.M.F.F.  You know they won’t let their employees us the #suitsupply hashtag on social media platforms?  They want to “control the image” of the company.  That’s fine.  Their ex-employees can do what they want.

Quitting is the best thing you can do for yourself sometimes.  If you feel that there is no way the changes you want will be possible, you need to find something else.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to have the option of being better.  You do not have the power to change the structure and tone of a company, if it does not agree with you, you need to move on.  You should never love a company because it does not possess the ability to love you back.

I quit primarily because my life was exceptionally out of balance.  I wasn’t able to go to the gym regularly (I have only been six or so times in the last six months) and my days off were spent recuperating from the work week.  The Secondary reasons why I quit are my frustrations of working with an incompetent, dismissive and dysfunctional corporate structure.  Most of the employees higher than the store level are exceptionally rude and just not good at their jobs.  When you are told by the COO that if you don’t get what you need from the buyers, it is your responsibility to continually bother them until they do their jobs, there is a problem with responsibility.  I don’t think pestering someone to do their job is an acceptable form of business.  That, and while I was managing the employees and store and responsible for everything that happened in the store for months and months, they never made it official.  I was getting paid a sales associate wage, but too busy to make commission.  My only bonus was the 10-12 hours of weekly overtime I was being paid.

I would like to share a couple articles that I have recently read:

You have probably heard before that most people do not quit their jobs, they quit their boss.  It makes sense.  That is absolutely 100% the reason I left Gucci.  It’s the reason everyone leaves that store.  It is one of the main reasons I am leaving Suit Supply (not my boss specifically, but the corporate structure and attitude of how they treat people in the stores).  Here is some help I wish the right people would read, I know they won’t, but I wish they would:
12 Personality Traits Of A Great Boss

 

And for my coworkers and anyone else wanting to make a change, I found the 10 Free Apps You Need For Effective Job Hunting.  Download them now.  Make that technology work for you.  Now that you have all the apps at your fingertips, you need to market yourself.  Read How To Supercharge Your LinkedIn Profile In 15 Minutes and follow the instructions.  Read What Recruiters Pay Attention To For Your LinkedIn And Online Profile and see what tweaks you can make to your profile to be noticed.  You don’t have to believe me that it is time to quit, read 9 Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job and decide for yourself.

 

 

 

Audrey Hepburn – Words To Live By

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“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.” — Audrey Hepburn
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Every birthday, I dust off this old gem, read over it, trim a bit here, add a bit there and repost it.  It is my way of keeping in check with what I have decided is who I want to be.  The whole process takes a week, I read and reread, I think about what is missing, how I want the words to read and what I want them to convey.  This year, along with the slight editing, I added a new “Exercise and Skin Care” paragraph.  I am very disciplined about both.  I have this one body and it needs to last at least another 50 years and hopefully run at peak performance for most of it.  Every year, I also take a current photo, I like how much I look like my bitstrips guy right now, so I split-screened it.20140119_125101“What I Have Learned So Far”

I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I want to continue to grow and change and progress until I die.  I do not ever want to rest on my laurels, get set in my ways, do something a specific way for no other reason that I have always done it that way.  I want to be routinely evaluating my choices to see if they still match with the person I am and the person I am on my way to becoming.  We can all do that, think about what is important to you and then reflect at the end of the day, as you drift off to sleep, to see if you accomplished it.  It is really less of a score card and more of a reminder for the next day.  Did you possess compassion whenever possible and applicable?  Did you express gratitude to your friends and family for being able to share each other’s life?

I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.  The past is nothing we can control and it can color who we are, but we can make the decision to be anything we set our minds to.  Create your identity, do not let it be assigned to you.  The traumas of our childhoods can easily make us into “victims” or “survivors” and we can hide behind that identity for the rest of our lives if we desire.  That trauma happened a long time ago and is over, to continue the trauma is your choice, but it does not give you a free pass to poor behavior.  It is a long struggle to be able to recognize you are worth good things happening to you, once you allow that thought to enter your consciousness, you start to let go of the past.

I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change. Sometimes, our paths run right along each other at the same speed, seeing the same sights.  Then our paths may separate, but that does not erase our history and the reasons why we first became friends.  We all understand that we change, so thinking that our friends shouldn’t is unreasonable.

I’ve learned that money is a horrible way of keeping score.  Money does not make you better or worse than anyone, it is an instrument.  Like any other instrument, it can be used in a million different ways.  The most beautiful concerto can be played on an old piano just as easily as the keys of a Steinway can be smashed with a mallet.  Find something you are passionate about and devote your extra money to it’s promotion.  Make your money work for you as hard as you worked for it.  Keep the circle of energy flowing.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. “I say tomato, you say tomato. Let’s call the whole thing off. But oh! If we call the whole thing off, then we must part. And oh! If we ever part, then that might break my heart!”  The Gershwins were on to something.  Learning to not be so arrogant that your way is the right and only way will take you far in love and life.  The ability to see things from different perspectives, even if you disagree with those perspectives is a valuable skill.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm and looks for only so long.  After that, you’d better know something.  This does not always seem true and maybe the length can stretch out for years, but in the end the boys and girls will stop turning their heads when you pass, so you better at least have some good stories of your youth to retell.  There is nothing wrong with physical charm, but giving it any weight and worth as a way to judge yourself or others is a mistake.  It is just a roll of the DNA dice. It does not matter how attractive a person is if they are ugly on the inside.  Everyone has a unique talent or gift in life.  Personally, I have always been drawn to people that have an ability to tell a story, that have a talent of finding humor everywhere, and people that know that life is an ongoing journey of exploration.  It is a physical attraction, an attraction to a glow or fire or something that people possess inside.  Have you ever tried having a conversation with nice biceps and teeth? Exactly.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do. We all have our talents, we all have our accomplishments, and for the most part, they are unique to us. Comparing yourself to the best parts of others will of course cause you to feel inferior.  The exercise in being proud of and happy for your friend’s success is a hard one.  It is hard to remove your jealousy or envy.  When you are able to do it, however, you become a better friend and a better person.  If you still cannot remove yourself from the equation, think about how awesome you are for choosing such talented and successful friends.  We can be happy when our friend’s are successful, no matter what Morrissey says.

I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you can’t.  It applies to running, it applies to life.  It is always darkest before the dawn for a reason, so you appreciate the dawn all the more.  Heartbreak and disappointment are horrible and painful, they can tear you into pieces from which you think you can never reassemble.  You can, and in time, you will.  That ability is one of the most exciting and unique parts of being human: resilience.  Knowing that life right now is hard, but having the memory and perspective that none of it is permanent and situations will change.  “Don’t give up, I know you can make it good.”

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.  Learning to understand their language may make the difference between feeling loved and feeling neglected.  Getting mad because someone doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved is like getting mad because the IKEA furniture assembly instructions are only in Swedish.  You can either try to translate and understand the IKEA instructions or you can shop somewhere with different instruction inserts.  Complaining will not bring you any closer to assembling that chair.

I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.  Every second of every day, we have the choice on how we are going to behave.  We can fly off the handle at the slightest things or we can choose to not let them ruin our day.  How we react and behave to every day situations is completely in our control.  Our past experiences may point us in a knee-jerk direction, but they have no actual power over us today.  Choose an attitude that would make you proud of the person you are.  If it does not feel natural to behave that way, fake it, eventually, it will become part of you.  I am a strong believer in the school of “Fake it ’till you make it.” I am a result of that philosophy.  I didn’t like something about me or recognized something about me that didn’t work, thought about how I could do it differently, and consciously did it that way going forward.  It did not immediately feel natural, but eventually, it became a part of me.  It is like diet and exercise for your character, it is hard and strenuous, but eventually, it becomes who you are.  Anger is ego, we all know this.  That person that cut you off in traffic did not do it to you because of who you are, they just did it.  It didn’t happen to you, it just happened, don’t take it so personally that it changes your mood.  Don’t hold onto it, that energy is undirected and wasted.

I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. The title of “Hero” has been been attributed to so many people in so many ways that it’s meaning has been diluted.  For this, I mean a person whose courage and strength I admire.  Heroes are quite often not popular or even liked at the time, usually because their actions cause discomfort and disruption.  Heroes see how the world can be a better place and do their best to change it.  For the most part, actors, athletes, popular musicians, and politicians are bad choices as personal heroes, there are plenty of examples why.

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you.  All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.  Learning and accepting that you cannot control how other people feel or react to your feelings is freeing.  I have learned to not withhold my feelings due to fear of them not being matched with equal strength from the other person.  Feelings are not discounted just because they are not returned.  Love and affection require expression to attain it’s full potential, they need air around them to grow.  It is crucial that you allow the organic nature of your feeling to exist and not squelch or play down them in any way. Washington Irving wrote, “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”  Take a chance, take a leap, the air rushing under your feet will do you good.

I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. Everyone knows this.  Your job and your stuff you love will never give you a ride to the airport or love you back. Your things you have will not bring you love.  That BMW will get you attention that at first may seem a lot like love, but it is probably more like envy. The people you touch in your life may not sit impressively on your mantle or fill up your checking account, but they will hold your hand when you cry and bring you soup when you are sick. In life, the immeasurable out-values all. There are no price tickets attached to love, devotion, friendship, and loyalty.

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. None of this changes how I should feel.  Zelda Fitzgerald is quoted as saying, “I don’t want to live — I want to love first, and live incidentally.”  I find myself thinking of this quote often and understanding it to mean that we need love to live, that we should approach life as a series of opportunities to love.  Everyone has been on both sides of this coin at one point in life: the lover and the loved.  It sucks and I hate it, but at the same time, there is a real rawness to heartbreak that is the purest of emotions.  That emotion has no ulterior motives, no hidden agendas that it hopes by creating one, another will follow.  It is pure loss, pure ache, and purely human. No matter how horrible it is, you feel so alive and wonderful knowing that you possess such capacity for feeling.

I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.  It may be the last time you see them.  Bring everyone you meet a gift.  This obviously does not mean a physical item wrapped with a bow, it could be a compliment, a touch, a smile.  Do not leave things unsaid for fear of over exposing your heart.  Your heart functions best when exposed raw to the air, it expands and produces more than ever imaginable.  This applies too even if you were thinking about someone during the day, send them a text or email to tell them.  Keep communications open, don’t let too much time pass.

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Move.  Motivate.  Moisturize.  Do your best to create and maintain healthy habits.  I know that when I am not physically active, running, lifting weights, I feel depressed.  My body feels depressed and out of sorts when I do miss more than a couple days at the gym.  It’s because it’s my body’s habit to be active, to experience an elevated heart rate, to stretch and push the boundaries of my musculature.  I feel so much better having gone to the gym.  That does not mean that I am always super excited about going to the gym.  My motivation for keeping a regular gym habit is elevated energy/mood, stress management, strength as I age, and vanity.  Do not underestimate the power of vanity, when harnessed for good, it can accomplish a lot.  Moisturizing falls under the Gym/Motivate/Vanity tab and plays a part in taking care of yourself.  I hope that I can live at least another 50 years (who knows what science will have done by then?) and I want those 50 years to be healthy active ones.  It is my job to keep myself in the best shape I can.

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Take Your Own Advice

I wrote this last year and it works for me, maybe it will work for you too?  I think about it from time to time and even just typing little notes on my phone and saving them for later seems to work for me.

Advice From Yourself

For this exercise, you are going to need a piece of paper, a pen, and some free time to think. You will need the free time first, I suggest you noodle on it while you are doing your daily thirty minutes of cardio. (You are doing thirty minutes of cardio every day, aren’t you? I’m not interested in your excuses.) Ask yourself this question:

If you could use a time machine just once to travel back and tell yourself one sentence, what age would you travel back to and what would you say?

If we had a month to go back in time and be the guidance counselors to our younger versions, I would let you write paragraphs with bullet points. I would let you outline a schedule of future events and how you should handle them. You only have a couple minutes to give yourself one sentence of advice and it should be in the form of advice. I am the first to admit that if I could, I would go back to 1985 and whisper in my ear to buy Microsoft stock when it goes public, but that really isn’t what this exercise is about.

Mine would be 14 years old and I would say “Hi, I’m you in the future, I came back to tell you that there is an amazing life for you with limitless possibilities out there, you just need to be fearless and know that you can do absolutely anything you put your mind to.”

Now that you have had time to think about it and come up with one sentence that you would want to tell the younger you, write it down on a piece of paper. I know one sentence is hard no one is going to make you diagram it if it turns out to be a bit of a run on, but try to keep it to one sentence.

You are all ready to go back in time, you have your one sentence script, you know exactly what you want to tell yourself. Go to your bathroom mirror. Read the sentence.

You can’t go back in time, but it is never too late. Life has not passed you by, it may be passing you by, it it is never too late. If you went back in time and whispered to yourself to become a teen pop star, that may not have been the best use of your one trip in a time machine, but you can still adapt it to your life today. Take singing lessons, surround yourself with kids, take hip hop dance lessons. It is never too late for hip hop dance lessons.

My guess is that most of you gave yourself advice similar to mine, to stand up, stand out, not be afraid of going after your dreams, grasp for the brass ring, to love hard and fearlessly, and to wring every ounce of juice out of life.

Tape that piece of paper to your bathroom mirror, read it every morning and honor that younger you by making up for lost time. You can’t go back in time, but it’s never too late.

Know Jack – Words To Live By

It is easy to say, difficult to try, and very hard to recognize in others, but it can be done, horizons can expand, thoughts can evolve, as long as there is life, there is potential for growth.

“Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion.” – Jack Kerouac

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Resolute

Change

Traditionally, I do not make resolutions.  If I see a change that needs making, I just make it, I do not wait for a calendar date to start.  However, last year, I did make a very small change and started it on the first of January:  I took the stairs whenever possible.  In my daily commute, I am given a choice of stairs or escalator and I chose the stairs whenever possible.  If I was only presented with an escalator, then I walked up them instead of stood on them.  That is it.  Simple.

It turns out that one of the keys to a successful change in your life is to start small because a tiny habit is easier to stick to.  Another trick to secure a successful change in your life is to piggyback a new habit on an existing habit.  If you already go to the gym, adding five more minutes of cardio is very simple.  Lastly, as with everything, practice makes perfect.  Keep at your new habit, keep doing it, and before you know it, you will realize that you are doing it without even having to think about it.

Some of the suggested New Year’s Resolutions I have collected around the internets:

Drink More Water – start with a dead simple resolution — to drink more water. Assuming you’re not already in the habit of drinking plenty of water, that is. This resolution is so simple that if you can’t keep it, you probably shouldn’t be making resolutions at all. It also happens to come with a lot of health benefits. Dehydration is bad for your skin, it’s bad for your kidneys and it’s even bad for your digestive regularity. So buy a reusable water bottle, or keep a mug by your desk at work and make frequent trips to the cooler.

Eliminate Your Limiting Beliefs – Every one of us develops beliefs over the course of our lives that are inherently limiting.  When we’re young, most of us think that nearly anything is possible. The things we can do, the things we can achieve are all within reach. As we grow older, we often find ourselves in positions where a lot of the things we hoped for didn’t turn out the way we wanted them to. In an effort to save face with our subconscious mind, we make up a bunch of lies about why we don’t have the things that we want to have.

Become More OrganizedStart small, and start on areas that you know will make a difference. Resolve to organize just one aspect of your life — whether it’s your email inbox, your finances, or even your social life. Once you start to see the impact it has, and once you begin to understand how manageable this process can be, you’ll find it easier to tackle some of the bigger organizational hurdles you have.

Disconnect At Least Once A Week – Speaking of limiting beliefs, one of the most common ones a lot of us are guilty of is that we need to go on vacation to disconnect from the technology and ties we have in our lives. This is a good one to start challenging as soon as the New Year rolls around. Take a day, or at the very least a few concerted hours every week to truly disconnect. No email. No internet. No television. No texts. Give yourself the space to take a break. It will feel amazing, and if it becomes a long-term habit, you’ll wonder how you even managed to live your life without this practice in the first place.

Take Every Small Opportunity To Exercise – Here’s another common suggestion that normally comes off as a load of half-hearted superficial advice. We’re here to tell you that it really, really isn’t. Walking at a moderate pace for 45 minutes will burn an extra 200 calories for most of us men that weigh enough to be concerned with our weight in the first place. Two-hundred calories might not seem like a huge deal, but consider this: If you burn an extra 200 calories per day and you change no other habits in your life, that will add up to 20 lbs of weight loss over the course of a year. This does assume that you’re at an equilibrium right now where you are neither gaining or losing any weight. Nevertheless, if you needed evidence that small changes can have a huge impact over the course of a year, there you go.

Give More Compliments – Paying someone a compliment is in itself a great action, but as a habit it’s even better. Learning to pay compliments means learning to pay closer attention to people in your life and the small changes that they make. Most of us spend a great deal of time and consideration on who we are and how we look, and getting recognized for it can be a great feeling. Besides the fact that you’ll feel better for paying more compliments, you’ll find that people start to warm up to you a lot more when you take the time to recognize them for who they are and the things they do.

Quit – If you hate your job, quit your job. Repeat after me: THE MONEY IS NOT WORTH IT.  Make job hunting your after-work activity.  Apply for everything you even think you may like.  Do not limit yourself.

Help strangers -  “Pay it forward,” do good things for the world — and don’t post a Facebook status about it.

And here is a list of what to leave in 2013 (I used to work with a guy that would need a personality transplant if he took this advice):

Stop posting negative shit about celebrities on social media, stop buying gossip magazines, stop watching reality TV. Moreover, just stop thinking about celebrities altogether. I am guilty of schadenfreude as much as anyone, but Miley Cyrus does not care what you think about her, so stop thinking about her.  I write daily about people whose lives I find inspiring.  Find people that inspire you and make them your own personal celebrities.

Stop caring about how many people “like” your Instagram photos, your tweets, your status updates, or any of that. If you like the content enough to post it, what else matters?  Social media anxiety is a waste of time.  Plus, trying to cater to what you think will garner a response from the hoi polloi makes you a Kardashian.

You don’t have ADD, you’re just rude.  Turn off your smartphone at dinner.  Don’t check your various feeds when you’re with friends.  Pay attention to the people physically in front of you.

Stop Liking Things Ironically – When you try to be ironic — you end up making bad things a million times worse. Therefore, all intentional irony should be abolished until everyone’s clear on what’s good and what’s bad. It’ll probably take about five years.

Quit The Namaste Gesture – When directed at, let’s say, the dry cleaner, this abridged prayer and bow combo comes off as highly insincere. As with everything, if you can imagine Adam Levine doing it, you should avoid it.

No More Honoring Yourself, Practicing Mindfulness, and Manifesting What the Universe Wants for You – Masking your selfishness with fancy words does not make it any less selfish.

Quash The Falsetto Flourish – Saying something like, “Imma get my drink on” with the “drink on” part sung in falsetto is a stylistic choice that cannot carry over into the new year. It might not seem like much now, but after a while, when things start to seem somehow better, we’ll know it’s because the Falsetto Flourish is gone.

Never Say “At the End of the Day, It Is What It Is.” – Across this great land, roughly 500,000 times a day, one person says this to another person, who nods in agreement, neither of them realizing that they’ve just participated in the emptiest experience two people can have. I think we all have our own corporate double-speak phrases that we find annoying, just start responding to the person that said it with “you just said nothing.”

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Seven Deadly (Conversation) Sins

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Did you listen to extremely entertaining and informative This American Life last weekend?  I heard most of it while I was driving around town running errands (and listening to them on headphones while in stores, etc) and then re-listened to the podcast this week while I was going to/from work.  The topic was boring conversation and the seven topics you should never talk about in a social setting.  Obviously, if you are asked a direct question, go for it, but if you are at a gathering of people, these seven topics should be avoided because, frankly, no one cares:

1. Your period
2. Diet
3. Your health
4. How you slept
5. Your dreams
6. Route talk
7. Money

As we are entering the holiday party season, it may be good to hit ‘refresh’ on your conversation skills.  It is long been understood that religion and politics are not good topics to bring up in social settings because it could cause discomfort and conflict in others, but these seven topics are really more about being boring and self-indulgent.  It is really more about not making the topic that you talk about you.  We have all experienced being in conversation one-up-off with someone who has a personal story that is just a little bit more intense than your story and they top your story with theirs.  It is boring and annoying and you leave the conversation thinking that the person is no one with whom you want to cultivate a friendship.  Don’t be that person.

1.  Your Period.  Why would you think that anyone wants to hear about that?  No one cares.

2.  Your Diet.  If you are on a weight loss plan or are a vegan or gluten intolerant, don’t go into detail.  No one cares.

3.  Your Health.  If you have a cold, it is bad form for your to even be attending a social event, let alone talking about your cold.  I would say that anything less than cancer no one cares.

4.  How You Slept.  This topic is pretty much a conversation stopper.  You slept well, you slept poorly, there is nowhere to go from there and no one cares.

5.  Your Dreams.  Talking in length about your dreams is a lot about showing people your extensive collection of vacation photos:  they weren’t there and they don’t care.

6.  Route Talk.  A retelling of your choice of streets and the traffic on those streets is not interesting to anyone.  No one cares.

7.  Money.  It is widely understood that talking about money is crude and vulgar.  Talking about how much money you make or how much your paid for things is self-indulgent and unless you are directly asked, no one cares.

Obviously, the height of good etiquette is not pointing out others shortcomings.  Basically, it is rude to tell people they are being rude.  This is a self-governing list to bring awareness to your own topics of conversation.  If you find yourself in a conversation that is not entertaining to you, it is well within your ability to change the topic to something mutually interesting.  If the person brings it back to a self-indulgent topic, take a mental note, and find a way to extract yourself from the conversation.

There are times when letting self-indulgent conversation topics occur are in your own best interest.  When you are first meeting someone and it is important that it goes well, cultivating a line of conversation that allows the person to talk about themselves is acceptable.  I recently read an article called 8 Conversation Hacks That Make People Like You and there were a few that really helped me fine tune my conversation skills with people I have just met and with whom I really want to make a good first impression:

  • Invite People to Share About Their Lives.  Most people enjoy talking about what they are knowledgeable about and everyone know a lot about themselves.  Ask questions that encourage a bit of bragging.
  • Wait for Your Turn to Talk.  Do not interrupt. I have found that if you are not finding a natural break in the conversation, the other person will eventually need to take a breath.
  • Request Advice.  Not even advice, just confirmation.  It could be as simple as requesting affirmation of what you have said.  But asking advice will make the other person feel that their opinion is of value.

But most importantly, you should listen to the episode because it is hilarious, follow the links below, grab the podcast or listen to it right here:

Groucho Marx – Words To Live By

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“She got her looks from her father. He’s a plastic surgeon.” – Groucho Marx

A Very Special Episode

Some of my favorite TV episodes are when the otherwise fun-loving happy-go-lucky characters deal frankly with serious problems.  Push my chips to the middle of the table, I am all in.  I loved the surprise of sitting down to watch an episode of Little House on the Prairie or The Golden Girls, expecting the formulaic hi-jinx and all the sudden it would be revealed that one of them is a drug addict.  What the shit?!  How long has this been happening?  Does this mean I have no way of actually knowing if anyone is on drugs?  I only knew of two people in our neighborhood that took drugs, one was a much older kid that lived a street over.  He wore Black Sabbath tshirts and had a black light in his bedroom.  The other was a girl who lived across the street that probably just ‘fell in with the wrong crowd’ for a bit.  In both cases, all I knew about them was they smoked pot, they were four or five years older and that is a huge difference when you are in grade school.  One of the only people I knew that was on drugs was Albert Ingalls from Little House on the Prairie.  Even then, he was addicted to old-timey packets of powdered morphine, which as far as I knew went out of fashion with the horse and buggy.

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“Home Again (Parts 1 & 2)”
Episode:  197/198
Original Air Date:  February 7, 1983

Charles and Albert return to Walnut Grove after Albert has repeated run-ins with the law (for curfew violations and theft). It is soon discovered that Albert is hooked on morphine, leading Charles to take drastic measures to help his son withdraw from the drug. Because of Albert’s morphine addiction, he begins to become out of control, especially when he attacks Jeb Carter in school and hits Etta Plum in the face when she tries to stop him. When Albert finally comes out of his addiction with Charles’ help, he realizes how wrong he was and, just before he and Charles leave, he apologizes to Etta Plum and Jeb, advising the kids not to do anything bad and hurt the people that love them just to fit in with a bad peer group.

By the time I saw the episode of The Golden Girls where the girls stay up all night eating cheesecake to help Rose kick her decades-long addiction to painkillers, my knowledge of drugs had expanded.  Still, the episode was so confusing that for a while, I thought I had dreamed it.

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The Wiki:

High Anxiety
Episode number: 4×20
Air Date: Saturday March 25th, 1989

We learn Rose is addicted to one of her old prescription pills when Sophia loses Rose’s pills down the sink. After the girls take them away from her, they try to stand by her withdrawal periods especially after she shows signs of rage when Blanche allowed a Pizza company to film in her kitchen.

DropBox Clearing House – Train Musings

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Sometimes, I put things in my dropbox and they stay there, never to see the light of day.  I need to dust them off and take another look at them.  This one is not that old, only from Thursday morning.

I have a little twinge in my back that is uncomfortable and annoying.  It makes everything difficult and exhausting. I can’t go to the gym and my walk to the train takes longer.  It happened Wednesday morning.

I was feeling old and sorry for myself on Thursday morning as I slowly hobbled to the train station.  I passed a women walking with a cane and a man on crutches having a difficult time with the curb.  On the train, I sat behind two people chatting and laughing, both holding red-tipped white canes.

Is it the universe our God trying to send me a message to get over myself?  Is it my subconscious getting my to stop focusing on the empty portion of the glass?  I’m not sure it really matters that much on who our what changed my perspective as long as it has been broadened.

Since the ‘accident’ happened at work, I was required to document it, and by that, I mean fill out a six page insurance accident report for which I only knew half of the information.  I completed it to the best of my knowledge, sent it to my boss and she submitted it to the people she thought needed it.  It is always a bit of a guessing game as to who/where to send inquiries, so we thought it best to cover our bases and send it to anyone we think that would need it.  Two people who did not need copies of the accident report, two higher-up manager-types, responded with short terse emails stating that they did not need a copy of it and inquiries as to why they were getting it.  My response:  “I will be fine, thank you for asking.”