Forgive and Forget?

Forgetting is a Gift to Yourself.

There are days when I seethe with anger at my father’s side of the family.  There are days when I somehow create a bit of distance and look at the situation objectively and am in disbelief that it happened to me and is a part of me.  More often, there are days that I completely forget about them all together.

Forgetting is not forgiving, forgetting is cleaning out the back of the closet and finding a pair of old ugly shoes that you never wear and just finally throwing them away.  Forgetting is getting rid of all the stuff that you don’t use or need or want to define you anymore.

Forgiving is a gift to them, forgetting is a gift to yourself.

I still struggle with wrapping my head around behaviors and actions of that family.  Their ability to smile for the camera as they knowingly destroy your innocence is unfathomable to me.  “They must have experienced something horrible to make them so cold” I have heard from various people to excuse away their blatant disregard for the wellbeing of others.  I say “No, they don’t get excuses.  They were adults, they knew how to behave responsibly, and they choose to be small, to be petty, and to hurt others.”  They do not get an excuse, they do not get a “pass.”

20 comments

      1. Save your prayers, they mean nothing. I live in reality. Sometimes, shitty people do shitty things, there is no reason why, there is no fixing it and there is absolutely no reason shitty people should get a pass for their shitty actions.

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      2. No, everyone will not be punished or rewarded by some after-life fairness policeman. Praying is pointless. I hope you don’t mind my words, seeing as it is my blog and all.

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